TL;DR: Passionate devotion to God, love for the church, appreciation for people of every culture, simple and generous living, and commitment to sharing the gospel worldwide will leave a positive legacy. Lasting influence grows from lives marked by faithfulness, integrity, compassion, service, and trust in God.
My 90-year-old father-in-law—Paul Reed—died one Saturday morning. The next Tuesday I conducted his funeral in the sanctuary of Bethany First Church of the Nazarene in Oklahoma. More on my father-in-law
Having to plan a funeral service and prepare a sermon for it made me think deeply about how I want to be remembered.
What kind of legacy do I want to leave? To be sure, I probably have a few years left. However, when the time comes and I'm gone, what will people remember about me? Or, even more than that, what kind of influence do I hope will remain in the people whose paths crossed mine?
Here are some thoughts that went through my mind as I prepared for that funeral service:
Note written for the newsletter of the Nazarene Association of Retired Ministers and Missionaries based in Bethany, Oklahoma.
About half a century ago, Barbara and I said goodbye to fellow ministry students at our college graduation and again, four years later, at our seminary graduation. We had no idea we would wind up in our retirement living in the same metro area with many of those former classmates. ARMM has given us the opportunity to reconnect with them.
We were idealistic back then. Not all of our lofty dreams came true. We didn't accomplish all that we had hoped to accomplish for God's kingdom. Our paths took twists and turns we never anticipated. However, the ideals we cherished then remain valid today and, at ARMM, we celebrate each other's faithfulness.
We also mourn those who dropped out along the way. Some let other alluring voices drown out the call. Some allowed sin to take root, flourish, and destroy their ministries. We mourn the trail of broken ordination vows left by some of our classmates.
Still, in the middle of the sweet and the bitter—the warm camaraderie of those finishing the race together and the sad memory of others who should have been here—we join Andraé Crouch in singing, "Through it all, I've learned to trust in Jesus … I've learned to depend upon His Word."
—Howard Culbertson, hculbert@snu.edu
Leaving a legacy is not merely about grand gestures or monumental achievements; it is about the impact we have on others and the world around us. Every action, every word, and every decision shapes our legacy. Our legacy will be formed by how we treat people, the kindness we extend, and the empathy we show. It's shaped by the knowledge we share, the wisdom we impart, and the inspiration we offer.
Whether through acts of service, contributions to knowledge, or simply being a source of support and love for those around us, our legacy is woven into the fabric of the lives we touch. By seeking to live with integrity, compassion, and purpose, we can leave behind a positive legacy that will influence the world long after we're gone.
L – Lasting words spoken in truth and grace,
E – Encouragement that lifts others in life’s race,
G – Godly character shaping every choice,
A – Attitudes that reflect a hopeful voice,
C – Compassion shown in quiet, selfless deeds,
Y – Your influence living on in others.