TL;DR: This case study highlights the ethical tension between personal conviction and cultural sensitivity. An American college student in France faces a dilemma during dinner in the home of a French professor who offers alcoholic drinks. Reflection questions invite readers to consider how believers can navigate cross-cultural settings where moral expectations differ. The afterword offers seven polite, respectful ways to decline alcohol while maintaining goodwill. It emphasizes advance planning, gracious communication, and cultural awareness.
As you consider this case study, do not focus exclusively on the question of alcoholic beverages. Believers often find themselves in situations where others do not share—and may be puzzled by—their lifestyle convictions.
It had been a long evening for Mike. What had started as a privilege had turned into a disaster.
Mike feared that he had insulted and upset the professor by refusing an aperitif and then wine. As they sat around the table after the meal, Professor Piaget set a glass in front of Mike, ready to pour some of his prized Brittany cider. Mike wondered if it was right for him to continue on a course of action that seemed to be alienating his host. Or would it be all right just this once to forget what he had been taught at Bible college, forget the suffering caused by his father's alcoholism, and forget even what the Smiths would think and say? Would it be all right to drink a little cider (which did not contain much alcohol anyway)?
Mike had previously spent two summers in France. Now, in obedience to what he felt to be the will of God, Mike had returned to that country and had entered the beginning French course at the University of Nantes. He lived in a dormitory where he hoped to develop relationships with French students. He also made friends with the Smiths, an American missionary family who were starting a church in Nantes.
Mike had just graduated from a conservative religious college in the U.S. that took a strong stand against alcoholic beverages. Mike shared the college's commitment to abstaining from alcohol. Because Mike's father was an alcoholic, he knew firsthand the suffering that alcoholism could bring. In his conversations with the Smiths, Mike was sad to learn about some missionaries whose decisions to begin drinking wine in social settings had reportedly contributed to serious problems with alcohol.
One day, Mike, together with three other foreign students, received an invitation from his professor. Professor Piaget had graciously invited them to dinner at his home. Mike had heard that it was a real privilege for students to be invited to a professor's home in France.
When the night arrived for the dinner, Mike's missionary friends, the Smiths, loaned him their car so he could pick up his Japanese friend, Isao. As they arrived at the Piagets' house, Mike and Isao were excited. Little did Mike suspect that the dinner would turn into an uncomfortable evening.
Dr. and Mrs. Piaget were very cordial. Mike spoke less French than anyone there, but everyone was patient with him. After all the students arrived, Professor Piaget offered everyone an aperitif, an alcoholic drink served before a meal. Wanting to be a good witness for his Lord, Mike refused the drink. Mike thought the professor seemed ill at ease because, for a moment, Dr. Piaget appeared not to know what to do. After an uneasy silence, the professor offered Mike a lemon drink. As the awkwardness of the moment passed, Mike breathed a sigh of relief.
When dinner was served, Mike ate heartily. But when Dr. Piaget began filling the guests' glasses with the customary wine, Mike politely refused his share. This time, the professor appeared uncomfortable, and Mike wondered whether his refusal had offended him. Although the professor offered Mike a Coke as a substitute, the atmosphere seemed to change. As the lengthy meal continued, the professor brought out more wine. Again, Mike was the only one to refuse it.
When dinner was finished, everyone sat around the table talking. Mrs. Piaget cleared the dessert and coffee cups from the table. It had been a great time for everyone except for Mike and perhaps his host.
Mike began asking himself several questions:
These and other questions had been running through Mike's mind throughout the meal. They continued to trouble him as everyone else enjoyed the relaxed conversation.
Eventually, Professor Piaget excused himself. After a few minutes, he reappeared carrying a tray. On it was a large flask surrounded by a neat circle of glasses. The professor began to tell his guests how good Brittany cider was. Then, he noted, especially for Mike's benefit, that the cider contained only a little alcohol. The professor set glasses in front of everyone and began to pour.
As his professor moved closer to him, Mike became anxious.
Holding a glass, Professor Piaget paused in front of Mike. At that moment, Mike...
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This case study is a revised version of one by Dennis Teague in Case Studies in Missions, edited by Paul and Frances Hiebert, Baker Book House. It may be reproduced only upon payment of a 35-cent royalty per copy to Baker Book House, 2768 E Paris Ave SE, Grand Rapids, MI 49546 USA.
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Refusing alcoholic beverages in cross-cultural situations can sometimes be challenging. Several courteous responses are available to people who have chosen not to drink alcohol:
