How do I survive culture shock?
TL;DR:
Culture shock is not just brief discomfort over strange foods or customs. It is a deeper psychological disorientation that comes from the continuing process of adapting to a new culture’s unfamiliar ways of living, thinking, and valuing. Symptoms may include homesickness, irritability, withdrawal, apathy, or psychosomatic symptoms. Anthropologists describe this process as a cycle of adjustment — honeymoon, frustration, adjustment, and acceptance — and note that it can recur in waves. The page also addresses reverse culture shock, the readjustment struggles that can occur upon returning home after an extended period of cross-cultural living.
- Coping mechanisms for culture shock include realizing what is happening to you, engaging with your host culture, getting involved in a hobby, building a support network, and consciously increasing your curiosity about the place where you serve.
- Reverse culture shock refers to the psychological and emotional distress people may experience when returning home after an extended period of living in another culture.
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Cultural adjustment stages
People often think that discomfort arising from encounters with strange foods or customs constitutes "culture shock." In reality, those brief moments of discomfort are not what anthropologists mean by culture shock. Instead, anthropologists and psychologists use "culture shock" to label the confusion, doubt, and nervousness common to people who have recently begun living cross-culturally and who are also experiencing one or more of the following:
- Exaggerated homesickness
- Excessive sleeping
- Loss of sense of humor
- Avoiding contact with local people by spending hours on email, the Internet, and social media
- Psychosomatic symptoms
- Frequent feelings of boredom or apathy
- Inexplicable bouts of weeping
- Compulsive eating
- Diminished ability to work productively
- High levels of irritability
- Hostility toward people of the host culture
- Jingoism or super-patriotism
- Stereotyping people in the host culture
- Exaggerated attention to cleanliness
Real culture shock is therefore more deeply rooted than the momentary discomfort we feel when confronting unfamiliar foods or social norms. It is not the momentary surprise we describe by saying, "That really shocked me." Instead, it is more analogous to the serious condition medical professionals describe when they say that a traumatized body has gone "into shock."
What anthropologists call culture shock develops during an extended period of coping with unfamiliar ways of behaving, organizing life, perceiving reality, and assigning value. Indeed, because people experience
culture shock symptoms over a period of time rather than in one isolated event, some
anthropologists say "cycle of adjustment" rather than "culture shock."
Culture shock symptoms will be quite evident in some people and less so in others.
Many people living cross-culturally experience some form of the adjustment cycle — honeymoon, frustration, adjustment,
and acceptance — although its intensity and sequence vary. Despite its name, culture shock is not a single startling event. It is the cumulative psychological stress and disorientation that can accompany prolonged adaptation to an unfamiliar culture.
Culture shock symptoms may come and go over a period of time. Describing her experiences
in Senegal, missionary Linda Louw said, "I thought culture shock was something that you got
through, and it was done, but it just keeps coming."
The sense of unease and heightened irritability common in the frustration stage can be
triggered by small things. The adjustment stage usually does not begin until a person has
become familiar with and increasingly comfortable in the new culture.
Fortunately, the effects of culture shock can be reduced. Here are half a dozen coping suggestions:
- Realize what is happening to you and why.
- Remind yourself that this happens to many expatriates in varying degrees and that people regularly work through it.
- Refuse to succumb to the desire to withdraw from people. Choose instead to engage with those of your host culture.
- Get involved in a hobby that connects you in some way with the place where you serve.
- Be bold about reaching out to people in your host culture to build a support network of confidants. Ask people to help you improve your language skills and cultural understanding.
- Consciously increase your curiosity about the wildlife, geography, plant life, history, literature, foods, social norms, folktales, children's stories, proverbs, legends, and fables of the place where you serve.
Reflection Questions About Culture Shock
- How would you articulate the difference between people's brief discomfort when encountering strange foods or customs and what anthropologists mean by culture shock?
- What are some of the symptoms of culture shock that people may experience when living cross-culturally?
- What is the cycle of adjustment, and how does it relate to culture shock?
- What coping mechanisms can individuals use to help soften the effects of culture shock?
- Why might it be important for people experiencing culture shock to consciously increase their curiosity about the place where they serve?
This article on a critical issue in world missions outreach was one of the 20 articles published in the Mission Briefing series in Engage, a monthly online magazine.
Acrostic: Coping with Culture Shock
C — Connect with locals: Engage with people from the new culture to build understanding and gain support.
O — Open your mind: Stay open to new ideas, experiences, and ways of doing things.
P — Practice patience: Adjusting takes time, so be patient with yourself and others.
I — Invest in self-care: Take time for activities that help you relax and recharge.
N — Nurture your curiosity: Learn about the culture, traditions, and history to deepen your connection.
G — Give yourself grace: Acknowledge that culture shock is a normal part of adaptation and be kind to yourself during the process.
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Afterword
Understanding culture stress
Survival skills for missionaries, international students, and others navigating culture shock while bridging cultural differences
This animated diagram illustrates two paths people take during the four phases of long-term
cross-cultural encounters. Kalvero Oberg coined the term "culture shock" in the 1950s. The term describes the psychological disorientation adults may experience while adapting to an unfamiliar cultural environment. This process of acculturation differs from enculturation, through which children learn their first culture. The cultural adjustment period usually includes
some disorientation brought on by uncertainty about cultural boundaries.
The confusion and anxiety brought on by cultural stress or culture shock may cause us to think, do, or say things that are contrary to God's purpose.

Diagram used by permission from Duane Elmer's Cross-Cultural Connections (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2002).
Symptoms of culture shock:
- Unwarranted criticism of the culture and people
- Heightened irritability
- Constant complaining about the climate
- Continually offering excuses for staying indoors
- Utopian ideas concerning one's previous culture
- Persistent concern about the purity of water and food
- Fear of touching local people
- Refusal to learn the language
- Preoccupation with being robbed or cheated
- Pressing desire to talk with people who "really make sense."
- Preoccupation with returning home
Stages most people go through in adjusting to a new culture
- Fun: The excitement and adventure of experiencing new people, things, and opportunities.
- Flight: Disorientation brings the urge to avoid everything and everyone that is different.
- Fight: The temptation to judge people and practices that are different as bad or foolish.
- Fit: Creative interaction with the new culture, including a willingness to understand and embrace appropriate aspects of it.
"One of the best defenses [against severe culture shock] is knowledge. . . . Know what you are likely to experience" — Diana N., Nazarene Bible College student
Five Ways to Survive Culture Shock
How can we cope with the disorientation of adjusting to a new culture? Having information
about culture shock is an initial step. Attempting to distance ourselves from an ethnocentric worldview will help. Then, to cope successfully, let's make sure that our attitudes mirror those suggested in green rather than red in the top half of the diagram. As you work through cultural adaptation, follow these five steps for navigating situations in which verbal and nonverbal cues and codes are unfamiliar:
- 1. Focus on what you can control.
- When you experience culture shock, you may feel out of control. Do not spend energy on things you cannot change.
- 2. Don't invest major energy in minor problems.
- Do not make "mountains out of molehills" in cross-cultural situations any more readily than you would in your own culture.
- 3. Tackle major stressors head-on.
- Do not avoid significant problems that need to be addressed.
- 4. Ask for help.
- Create a support network in your host culture. This can include expatriates like yourself as well as people from the local culture.
- 5. Write it down.
- Record your thoughts and frustrations in a journal. This will give you a healthy outlet for expressing your feelings.
Knowing how to survive culture shock or stress can be helpful to missionaries as well as international students who come to our country to study.
Help from the Bible
Can Holy Scripture help us with cross-cultural adjustment? The Book of Acts is a good place to begin because it contains several examples of cross-cultural interaction and adjustment. Paul, who grew up in what is now Turkey and was educated in Jerusalem, traveled throughout the Mediterranean world planting churches in different cultural settings. He later wrote to the Philippians, I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances
(Philippians 4:11). Paul also encountered Jewish Christians who insisted that Gentile converts adopt Jewish practices, which would have made Christianity a monocultural movement.
Another relevant biblical account is the story of Ruth. Ruth was a young woman who left her home country and culture and moved to Israel. Ultimately, she became one of the women named in Jesus' genealogy (Matthew 1:5).
Other Bible stories to ponder include:
- Joseph: He was sold into slavery in another country and culture. He remained faithful and lived so wisely that he eventually rose to a position of power (Genesis 37–50).
- Daniel: Living in Babylon during the exile period, Daniel kept his faith while also being a
person of influence in the Babylonian government.
- Abraham: Abraham experienced some failures in cross-cultural encounters. Fearing for his safety, he said that his wife was his sister during a visit to Egypt (Genesis 12:10–20).
— Howard Culbertson, hculbert@snu.edu
Reverse culture
shock and how to cope with it at home — Abbey Road Programs
Reverse culture shock is what people often experience when returning to their home culture
after living in another for a period of time. That can be a long process. A 60-year-old MK
(missionary kid) wrote, "My parents
took us to Brazil when I was seven. The work of adjusting back to the States seems never quite
over."
Comparison of Culture Shock and Reverse Culture Shock
Culture shock and reverse culture shock can occur as people enter an unfamiliar culture or return home after an extended absence.
Here are the differences between the two:
Culture Shock
- Definition:
- Culture shock refers to the feelings of confusion, anxiety, and disorientation that
you experience when you are suddenly exposed to a new and unfamiliar culture.
- Context:
- Occurs when you move to a new country or culture.
- Stages:
- Honeymoon stage: Initial excitement and fascination with the new culture.
- Frustration stage: Realization of differences, leading to frustration and
confusion.
- Adjustment stage: Gradual understanding and adaptation to the new culture.
- Acceptance stage: Full or partial adaptation, in which you feel comfortable and function well in the new culture.
- Symptoms:
- Homesickness
- Irritability
- Anxiety and stress
- Difficulty in communication due to language barriers
- Confusion about social norms and customs
- Coping strategies:
- Learning the local language and customs
- Seeking support from fellow expatriates or locals
- Maintaining a positive attitude and being open to new experiences
Reverse Culture Shock
- Definition:
- Reverse culture shock, also known as re-entry shock, refers to the feelings of confusion,
frustration, and disorientation that you experience when you return to your home country
after living abroad for an extended period.
- Context:
- Occurs when you return to your home country after adapting to a different
culture.
- Stages:
- Disengagement stage: Anticipation and excitement about returning home.
- Initial euphoria: Joy and relief at being back home.
- Irritability and hostility: Realization that home culture has changed or feels
different, leading to frustration.
- Readjustment and adaptation: Gradual readjustment to the home culture.
- Symptoms:
- Feeling out of place in your own country
- Frustration with cultural norms and values that were once familiar
- Nostalgia for the culture and lifestyle experienced abroad
- Difficulty in reconnecting with family and friends who have not shared the same
experiences
- Coping strategies:
- Reconnecting with fellow returnees who understand the experience
- Integrating positive aspects of the host culture into daily life at home
- Allowing time for readjustment and being patient with yourself
- Seeking support from friends, family, or professional counselors
Key Differences
- Context: Culture shock occurs when entering a new
culture. Reverse culture shock happens after returning to one's home culture.
- Adjustment: Culture shock involves adapting to new
customs and norms. Reverse culture shock involves readapting to familiar yet altered
customs and norms.
- Emotional Journey: Culture shock often starts with
excitement that turns into frustration. Reverse culture shock can begin with relief that turns into a sense of alienation.
- Coping strategies: Both involve seeking support and allowing time for adjustment, but the focus may differ, such as learning new customs when entering a culture and reintegrating familiar customs after returning home.
Understanding these differences can help you better prepare for and manage your experiences when transitioning between cultures.
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